The arrival of a baby is a unique and delicate moment for the family. Although visits are usually made with the best intentions, it is important to remember that both the baby and the mother need peace and adjustment. To make your visit well received and really useful, here are some key recommendations to keep in mind.
Ask before you go or, better yet, wait to be invited.
The first few days can be difficult for both the baby and the mother. Not every time is a good time to have visitors. Sometimes parents find it difficult to say that they are not in a good mood, so waiting to be invited is the best option.
Offer help at home
Rather than visiting to meet the baby, the best thing you can do is help with daily tasks. Bringing prepared food, cleaning the kitchen, cleaning the bathroom or doing the shopping will be much more useful gestures than trying to help with the baby. (Of course, if the mother asks you to hold him, go ahead.)
Do not use perfumes or makeup
Fragranced products can be toxic and harmful to babies. In addition, their strong smell irritates and affects them on a sensory level. It is best to avoid any fragranced products that disturb their safe environment: the smell of their mother.
Do not smoke before the visit
Not only is tobacco smoke harmful, but the smell can permeate clothing, hair and skin, reaching the baby. It is best to avoid smoking before the visit.
Don't pick up the baby unless asked to do so.
Although it may be tempting, babies do not do well being passed from arm to arm among unfamiliar smells and voices. In addition, mothers, due to their protective instincts and hormones, may feel uncomfortable if someone picks up their baby without their consent.
Don't kiss the baby
It's normal to want to kiss a newborn, but their immune system is still immature and their skin is very delicate. Kissing them on the face or hands can expose them to infections.
Don't go if you are sick (not even a cold)
A simple cold in an adult can turn into severe bronchiolitis in a newborn. If you have symptoms, it is best to avoid the visit. If in doubt or if you have been in contact with someone who is sick, wear a mask.
Avoid giving unsolicited advice
Every family raises their child in the way they think is best. In the early days, parents are already receiving a lot of opinions, and unsolicited advice often creates more confusion than help. If they have questions, they will ask.
Make short visits
Babies are easily stressed and both they and their mothers need reassurance. Also, if there are older siblings, they can become upset with all the newness and anticipation.
Speak in a low voice
Even if your baby seems to be sleeping soundly, loud noises can disturb his rest and affect his peace of mind. Maintaining a calm environment will always be the best option.
If you have children, keep an eye on them.
It is the adult's responsibility to ensure that children do not disturb the peace of the baby and his mother. Avoid them touching the baby, shouting near him or running and jumping inside the house.
